UPDATE 5/26/16: Please see this comment for an update on Fialkowski’s legal situation. Linked in the comment is a revealing statement published in Planet Transgender from one of Fialkowski’s teen victims.
Parents of kids who yearn to be the opposite sex are constantly told to trust the gender experts. Trust the doctors. Trust the caring people who run support groups for these unhappy teenagers. They (and your kid) know best. “Born in the wrong body” is a real thing (despite no actual evidence to prove it), and despite the fact that even the experts admit they don’t know what the long term outcomes will be for children given puberty blockers and cross sex hormones.
Clearly, not every parent is on board with pediatric transgenderism. This blog is frequented by skeptical parents. And you can find other doubtful moms and dads in corners of the Internet, agonizing on advice forums, or pushing back in the comments thread of one of the many trans-kid media portrayals.
Young people with “unsupportive” parents are encouraged by adult trans activists to turn their backs on their families; to seek comfort and community in one of the many organizations popping up to “serve” them with support groups, summer camps, and counseling. These organizations are staffed almost entirely by adults who consider themselves transgender. Hey, they’ve been there, right? They understand.
One such youth “support” group in Lynchburg, VA was headed up by a “trans woman” formerly known as Joseph David Fialkowski, who was indicted by a grand jury today on multiple felony charges pertaining to rape, strangulation, abduction, and “intent to defile” a minor. Bail is set at more than $8 million.
Julianna Tourmaline Fialkowski, 25, faces one count each of felony rape; abduction with the intent to defile; enticing another into a dwelling with intent to commit a felony; strangulation; and misdemeanor assault, according to the indictment.
Deputy Commonwealth’s Attorney Bethany Harrison said in an email Wednesday the incidents involved one juvenile victim.
Fialkowski was arrested Sept. 1 on eight counts of producing child pornography, Lynchburg Police Lt. Malcolm Booker said in an email last month.
He said the charges stemmed from an incident on July 28, but declined to give more details because of the ongoing investigation.
Harrison had no comment about whether the charges on which Fialkowski was indicted occurred during the production of child pornography.
Fialkowski was previously glorified as a hero in transgender press outlets when first arrested last April. It seems Fialkowski fancied himself a rescuer of a teen who attended his transgender support group, Sanctuary Lynchburg. Fialkowski evidently decided the 17-year-old’s father was not sufficiently supportive of his “transmale” teen, so Fialkowski took matters into his own hands. On April 9, Gavrva.com, a Virginia new outlet, painted a rosy picture of Fialkowski’s role in “assisting” the youth:
According to Julianna Fialkowski (top image), 25, she found out about the unnamed, 17-year-old transmale after a cry for help went out on the social media site Facebook late last month. The youth claimed that he was self harming- adding that he was suicidal. Fialiowski said that she was also led to believe that the youth was being forced out of his house.
…Fialkowski found the youth’s house through an internet search, and accompanied by a prayer chaplain from a local trans support group, went to the home to offer their assistance. After a dispute between the youth and his parents, the youth left the house, indicating to that his father had kicked him out and that he had permission to leave.
The teen’s father didn’t quite see it that way, however, and filed charges leading to Fialkowski’s arrest.
Planet Transgender also promoted the image of Fialkowski as a savior of trans youth last April, leaning heavily on the suicide angle, and painting Fialkowski as the innocent victim of a transphobic parent and an overzealous legal system.
Lynchburg advocate Julianna Fialkowski couldn’t have imagined saving a trans youth’s life might mean destroying her own future.
What of Aubrey Mariko Shine, Zander Mahaffey, Eylül Cansın, Jay Ralko, Taylor Alesana , Ash Haffner, Andi Woodhouse, Jay Ralko, and Blake Brockington? Most of those named were in their teens and all were under 25 when they committed suicide. And all of these tragic deaths since December 2014 might have been avoided if an advocate brave enough had been at the right place at the right time as Fialkowski was.
Would those advocates have been subjected to arrest as well?
Julianna Fialkowski began a transgender community support group in what she calls “the barren and unforgiving climate of small town Lynchburg, VA” but soon ran afoul of local bigots. She says that she was arrested without cause, made to strip in front of male deputies, misgendered and dehumanized while remanded in county jail.
“In the process of helping persons of all ages to explore their identities in a safe space with like-minded sponsors and adults,” Julianna Fialkowski wrote “I have come to be personally attacked by the hateful parent of an attending minor.”
“Within just eleven days of meeting this child, their father has brought police to disrupt my life, taking out his frustration and fear on me.”
“Worse still, in the process of being arrested for false claims, I have been severely mistreated by the legal system of the city. I’ve been kept from knowing the extent of my charge, jailed with ridiculous bonding amount, and made to strip nude, exposing myself and my breasts before four male deputies.”
The comments thread on the GayrVa piece was, predictably, filled with outraged trans activists, attesting to the “innocent and pure” nature of the transwoman who “only wants to help people.”
The article publicized a GoFundMe link to help pay Fialkowski ‘s legal expenses, and the Trans-blogosphere dutifully joined in the fundraising effort:
But something changed over the months following the arrest to make some of Fialkowski’s former supporters jump ship: multiple young people from the trans-youth support group Fialkowski founded were apparently also victimized by him.
So now that this predator has been indicted and charged, maybe justice and truth will finally out in the case of “Julie” Fialkowski. But what do all those progressive, pro-trans news outlets that were leaping to Fialkowski’s defense a few months ago have to say now?
Today, October 8, 2015, the day Fialkowski’s indictment broke in the Lynchburg paper and across Virginia, did a single LGBT or trans news outlet cover it? The Advocate? Planet Transgender? I scoured. And …crickets.
The very journalists and organizations who purport to “care” about our kids can’t be bothered to cover a story when one of their own is brought up on rape, strangulation abduction, and child pornography charges.
The Advocate, for its part, was apparently too busy with more important stories. Like denouncing the Tacoma, Washington YMCA for actually protecting children in its locker rooms from predators like “Julie” Fialkowski.
Parents, doesn’t this story help you feel more secure, entrusting your children to leaders of organizations that bill themselves as havens for transgender youth? Can you rest a little easier, knowing that these caring support group leaders only want to help your child “explore their identities in a safe space with like-minded sponsors and adults”?
How many more “Julie” Fialkowskis are out there, eager to rescue your troubled kids from your unsupportive clutches?
It seems to me it’s long past time to find out.